.Practical Help for Divorcing Parents: Tips and Case Studies

Avoiding hatred in divorce.

13th September 2024

I delved into the internet and the general consensus is that hatred isn’t great for our body. It releases stress hormones into our brain and over stimulates our nervous system. Hate can cause both negative mental and physical symptoms in our body. I couldn’t find a lot of positive things relating to hate and overall […]

Spending time with your child.

1st September 2024

Tom I want to introduce you to Tom and Lara. I met them when they had been dating for a year. Tom had survived a difficult divorce with a spouse who (in his opinion) hadn’t had a nice word to say about him in years. He had endured the pain and had managed to forge […]

My family wall.

22nd August 2024

Photos This is my family wall and it’s a work in progress. It’s a hodgepodge of photographs and whatnot from my life. I have to find space for two new family members as we welcomed new babies this year. On the wall there’s many of my family members who are no longer alive. My parents […]

Two homes and two sets of rules.

16th August 2024

Children are great at adapting; they soon learn how to live in two homes with two sets of rules. They know what to expect when they are with their dad, and they know what not to do at their mum’s house etc. Most children manage to comfortably slot into both homes with ease, even if […]

Are you ready to be a stepparent?

10th August 2024

At the tender age of twenty-five I met the love of my life. I was naïve, baby faced and didn’t have much serious relationship mileage under my belt. I had never knowingly flirted with a ‘dad’ before and I wasn’t even sure that I wanted children. Afterall, in my life plan, the time I had […]

Gather a crew of people around you. Finding a supportive community after divorce.

28th July 2024

‘We don’t get wounded alone and we don’t heal alone’ – Carl Jung I have previously spoken about the loneliness of an unhappy marriage but there is another type of loneliness that I want to mention – the loneliness of separation. There’s the emptiness of spending the first Christmas without your daughter or the isolation […]

Meeting your ex’s new partner.

20th July 2024

After divorce and separation there are many hurdles to jump and many firsts to experience. There’s the first holiday alone, the first away weekend as well as the first time you get to officially meet your ex’s new partner. The list is endless. Meeting your ex’s new partner can be a daunting experience. Perhaps their […]

The courage to leave an unhappy marriage.

18th July 2024

One of the saddest statements I ever heard in my adult life was from a lady who said that she wished that she loved herself enough to leave her marriage. Her name was Paula, and she was in her late forties when we met. Paula’s statement has stayed with me and returns and surfaces to […]

What happens to the chores after divorce?

23rd June 2024

A year ago, I turned fifty. My gift to myself was a two-month hiatus from my life. I recognised that I needed time out to reset. Lucky for me, I have an amazingly supportive husband and he was willing to accept that I needed to escape for a while. My children were also fully on-board […]

Are you in a rebound relationship?

20th June 2024

After a marriage ends, when is it too soon to date again? How do you prevent being in a rebound relationship? I have checked on the internet, it’s official – My name is Jo, and I am a reboundee! My husband and I started dating soon after his marriage ended. He hadn’t wanted his marriage […]

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