Remembering the younger self.

  • 14th November 2024

I have struggled lately and feel I may have lost my way a little. Being an adult can be tricky and sometimes it feels that every few years I am operating and experiencing adulthood without a certificate. When this happens to me (and it often does), I go back to basics. I take thirty minutes […]

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Is your relationship ready for Christmas? With just over seven weeks until Christmas, it’s a good time to evaluate the strength of your relationship. The new year often sees a rise in divorce and separation. The stress of the holiday season, as well as the pressure to be cheerful, can be overwhelming for a marriage […]

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Can you play nice in divorce?

  • 25th October 2024

Can you play nice in divorce?

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Blended families and stepfamilies are on the increase in the UK and the United States. With divorce rates increasing in the last fifty years, today’s children are often members of families that include both biological and step grandparents. The situation isn’t going to change any time soon therefore the number of step grandparents in western […]

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Gathering our olive crop. This week we have been picking and harvesting our olive crop and it’s here in Italy each year that I realise our marriage is like our olive crop. Each October we make the journey with family and friends to the home of my mother-in-law. It is our annual pilgrimage where we […]

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Life scripts and why they are important. A life script is an unconscious life plan that we make for ourselves from a very early age. We are forming this plan as small children and without awareness we are living this plan throughout our lives. Our parents, family and care givers (teachers, religious leaders, babysitters etc) […]

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Imagine yourself in this scenario, you have been married for fifteen years and your marriage is ending. You have decided to separate from your spouse. Overall, it hasn’t been a bad marriage, the first eight years were very happy. The last few years were a bit ropey, and your soon to be ex has admitted […]

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Avoiding hatred in divorce.

  • 13th September 2024

I delved into the internet and the general consensus is that hatred isn’t great for our body. It releases stress hormones into our brain and over stimulates our nervous system. Hate can cause both negative mental and physical symptoms in our body. I couldn’t find a lot of positive things relating to hate and overall […]

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Spending time with your child.

  • 1st September 2024

Tom I want to introduce you to Tom and Lara. I met them when they had been dating for a year. Tom had survived a difficult divorce with a spouse who (in his opinion) hadn’t had a nice word to say about him in years. He had endured the pain and had managed to forge […]

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My family wall.

  • 22nd August 2024

Photos This is my family wall and it’s a work in progress.  It’s a hodgepodge of photographs and whatnot from my life. I have to find space for two new family members as we welcomed new babies this year. On the wall there’s many of my family members who are no longer alive. My parents […]

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