Clients typically come to Practical Help coaching with specific goals, such as saving their marriage, ending a marriage, becoming better parents, or navigating step-parenting. Each client’s agenda is unique.

Values and coaching.

To effectively assist a client, I like to start the coaching journey by understanding who they are. This doesn’t mean asking about their car or job. Instead, I want to know how they perceive themselves and what defines them.

Understanding a client’s values helps guide the coaching process. For instance, when a client going through a divorce feels overwhelmed with anger, I can remind them of who they are and what they stand for.

Values are the foundation of your life. They provide stability when everything feels chaotic. While most people are aware of their values, writing them down can be particularly helpful during times of change and personal struggle.

What’s on your list?

Do you have a few spare minutes? Take a look at the list below and choose the top five values that resonate with you. Remember your answers and the next time you have an important decision to make, try to incorporate your values into the decision process.

Know your partner.

It is great to have an insight into your values but can you imagine how useful it might be to know your partner’s values? When trying to strengthen a relationship or even rebuild bridges, knowing and understanding your partner at a deeper level can be helpful.

If your marriage is ending and divorce is inevitable, it can still ease the separation process if you can both understand each other’s perspective. Making a commitment to stick to your core values through troubled times may make the difference to having a healthy divorce. Inform your lawyer, family and friends of what you stand for and you will be less likely to follow an angry or destructive path.

Like to learn more? Let’s work on your values together.